A Life Worth Living by Nancy Buxton

Archive for June, 2010


Yesterday was a very special day, Father’s Day!  I thought of my Dad and the fact that he was my buddy.  When my mom didn’t see things my way I would always go to daddy.  I think just the word daddy melted his heart and he would usually see things my way.  Not always but sometimes.

My dad was a dependable man, he got off work at 4 pm and was home by 4:20, 4:30 at the latest, never fail.  Once a month we, my dad and I, would meet at the grocery store to do some shopping.  We lived in a town where we could buy groceries on credit.  When dad got his pay check, he would cash it  at the grocery store, pay our bill and stock up for the next month. If the bill was too high he would by unhappy and always thought we spent too much on food.

Dad taught me how to cook.  Every time I made something that was not great he would say, “it’s just the way I like it.”  He taught me to make gravy, steak, fried chicken and most any thing that was easy.  I know I have told you about him before but it seems worthwhile to repeat.

Dad had a quick temper and could “fly off the handle” easily.  I was 17 when he gave me my last whipping, it was my sassy mouth that got me into trouble.  I know what you are thinking child abuse, well maybe but in those days it was called discipline.  Good or bad that’s how they did it.

As for my children’s father, my husband, he was never spanked a day in his life.  His father was 55 when he was born so I doubt by the time Bob was spanking age his dad could even catch him. 

Are you wondering what we did for Father’s Day around my house. After the two phone calls from our  kids, we went to Valentino’s for brunch, I paid, father’s ate free.  LOL  I gave him a one way plane ticket back home from Washington state.  I will fill you in on that another time.

Last evening we celebrated Bob’s birthday.  Seven of us ate at Tico’s, it was delicious.  My present to him was 2 ties (one purchased at a garage sale) and two pair of pants.  Not exciting I know but everything fit and he needed them.

We also cleaned the downstairs, big  job but someone had to do it and since we are the only two around it was us.  We moved furniture, bookcases and really deep cleaned.  I think we are ready for our little Singapore family to arrive.

God is good. He has brought such special people into my life.  It could have been so different.  Have you ever thought how things could have been.  Sometimes I wonder why God gave us the power of choice, why did he give us a will.  He has such good ideas why didn’t he just plan our life for us?  I know, I know it just does not work that way, there is a reason.  God would be called unfair if he did that–Satan always messes things up.

It’s Crunch Time

What happened to the lazy, hazy days of summer?  When I was a kid it seemed like summer lasted forever.  When I was a young mom by the time summer ended I was really ready to get those kids back on a schedule.  Now that I am an empty nester, LOL who am I kidding I am long past being an empty nester.  My nest has dried up and blown out of the tree.  The older I get the faster time goes.  Is it just me that this has happened to?

I hate how fast time flies!  I feel like summer is almost over and it doesn’t help that I am getting ready to take a trip to Atlanta and will be gone for 10 days.  My far away kids arrive in Lincoln the same day I do.  Won’t that be fun?  Speaking of fun I will actually be on the same plane with them from Chicago.  I can’t wait.

However, between now and then I have plenty to do and only a week to get it done.  We have a birthday to celebrate, yup, my fella is having a BIG birthday. I won’t tell what it is but it’s pretty big.  We need to celebrate.  I have bread to bake, granola to make and a downstairs to get ready for action.  For five days ALL of the kids and grands will be here, just think of the fun we will have with a 12, 7, 5,4,2 and 1-year-old.  I would guess we will all fall into bed each night. Well, everyone but the kids.

Oh, you want to know about Weight Watchers–well finally I settled down and lost 3.7 pounds this week.  I know it’s not very good but it’s not WW fault it’s mine.

When we use to visit my husband’s parents his mom would always make Swedish Pancakes–my son loves them.  Today they are mostly called Crepes.

Put in a blender

 2 eggs

2 T oil

3 T sugar

1 Cup flour

1 1/3 milk

Blend well.  This is actually better if you make the batter the night before.  Spray your non-stick skillet and get it pretty hot and just pour enough batter to coat the bottom of the pan.  Don’t turn the crepe over until it is almost cooked through then flip it over and roll it up.  These are really yummy and you can either use syrup or grandma served them with blueberries.

The Dress

Do you remember the post, “Because She Wants it?”  It was about a dress my granddaughter wanted to me make along with a dress just like it for her doll. It took  me a long time to find just the right fabric and then to my dismay the silky fabric was a nightmare to sew and it ended up in the trash.

Finally I found some more fabric that was cotton and started to work on the dress.  It has been years since I have put in a zipper much less made a sleeveless dress.  However, when the grandkids want something I do my best to make it happen.

I was very excited this weekend to give Jenna the dresses for her birthday.  The gift was carefully wrapped.  When she opened it she was surprised because she had forgotten she had asked for it.

I had fun making these little dresses, not because I like to sew clothing.  I hate to sew clothing, I hate to make things fit, I hate having to be so careful.  But, I love Jenna and I love to give her gifts that make her smile.

I know you are getting my drift. . .You have heard it before but I am just going to remind you once more.  God the Father loves to give us gifts too, actually even more than I love to give Jenna gifts.  I know I am being rather simple here, but how come we don’t catch on when it really is so simple.  God gave us the gift of His son, what a gift and we don’t even get the reason the gift was given.

I hope you will spend some time studying about God and the reason Jesus died for us.  I hope you understand it in just a small way.  What ever the reason Jesus had to die, it provided the gift of salvation for you and for me.

Thunking Thursday

LOL how do you like my title, “Thunking Thursday”–I know you don’t get it, I don’t either.  Have you ever gone to a blog and each day of the week  has a name like; Pink Saturday, Frivolous Friday or Trivial Tuesday?  I just thought we could call Thursday, Thunking Thursday. 

On Thunking Thursday we are going to thunk or is that think.  IDK–Where did all this silliness come from so late at night?  Maybe it’s because we are going to see our little people this weekend.  Maybe it’s because we are going to see our far away little people very soon.  Or maybe it is just because we are alive and blessed.

I went to WW on Wednesday, UP one pound.  No reason not to be because I still have not totally embraced this way of eating.  It seems like I do better with less choices, in other words I am back to the fact that I have no will power.  I bought some WW ice cream bars, well in one day I had three.  Don’t smile this is serious.  Where has my will power gone?

Here is a fun recipe for Black Bean Lasagna

1 cup chopped onions

1/2 Cup chunky salsa

1 tsp. chili powder

1/2 tsp cumin

1 Cup light ricotta cheese

1 1/2 Cup shredded cheddar or Mozzarella cheese

1/2 Cup chopped green pepper

10 uncooked lasagna noodles

1 15 oz. can black beans, drained

1-28 oz. can crushed tomatoes

1 egg

Heat oven to 350, spray 13×9 inch baking dish with Pam.  In large bowl mash beans slightly stir in tomatoes, onions, peppers, salsa, chili powder and cumin.  Mix well.  In small bowl combine ricotta cheese, dash garlic powder and egg blend well.  Spread 1 cup of tomato mixture over bottom of pan, top with half of the noodles, top with half of remaining tomato mixture, spoon ricotta mixture over top spread carefully top with half of the cheese then with remaining noodles, tomato mixture, and cheese.  Cover tightly with spray coated foil and bake at 350 for 40-45 minutes or until noodles are tender.  Uncover let stand 15 minutes before serving.

Leadership Weekend

Carla Baker and Darlene Fairchild

It was a great weekend and if you messed it I’m sorry.  Next time you have an opportunity to attend a Leadership Weekend I hope you will consider it. 

This weekend was at Broken Arrow Ranch in Kansas.  Sue Carlson, Women’s Ministries Director for the Kansas-Nebraska Conference planned a powerful weekend.  We did lots of sharing and much learning.  We prayed together, laughed together and  we each went home changed. 

We learned about the history of women’s ministries, how to asses what needs to be done in our church.  We were taught about effective public speaking, evangelism and how to do women’s ministries.  We learned. . .well we learned way more than I can tell you.

Sue Carlson

The Lord certainly lead Sue in planning a wonderful weekend.

A Cord of Three Strands

I love to embroidery, I know what you’re thinking, what doesn’t she love?  Well, I don’t love. . .oh we will leave that for another time.  Ecclesiastes 4:12 says: “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”  It  sure is true in my embroidery experience and it’s true in live.

I am just going to jump right in and say I am comparing this to at least 3 things we need in our life to stay strong.  First, we each need a mentor–perhaps an older person, for sure someone who knows Jesus. 

Second, we need someone to encourage us.  Last week two of my little grands visited us, it was so much fun to encourage them and watch what encouragement does for them. I have seen it in the lives of women, when we are encouraged we seem to blossom. 

 Third we each need to invest in the life of a younger person or someone who does not know Christ like we do.  I have never felt any closer to the Lord than when I was investing in another person’s spiritual life.  I think I grew as much or more than she did.

 Sometimes a person may start out knowing an individual in one way and then after a time this person may become part of the strand of the cord. I think often we never allow ourselves to be open enough to allow another individual to help us grow in Christ or grow as an individual, We have the idea that we can do it all by ourselves.

If we allow a mentor in our life who truly loves us they will tell us like it is.  Love always wants the best for the other person.  Sometimes that means we need to speak some difficult truths rather than simply stroke each other’s egos.  Jesus challenged His disciples when they needed it.

I hope you will look for a mentor, someone to mentor and someone who will encourage you, it’s worth your time.

The Power of Friendship

This is the last of the posts on making sure your church is friendly, not only to visitors but to members.  It is possible to feel alone and lonely when you have been a church member for a very long time.

Think  about this, there is no way you would invite someone to your home and then just sit there and never say a word.  Yet when we walk into the sanctuary have you noticed we usually just sit down.  Last summer the AC in our church had to be replaced.  It was the usual hot summer and we decided to meet in our upstairs fellowship hall.  We only had chairs to sit on but it worked.  In my book it really worked.  I noticed people actually talking to each other, they would even turn the chairs around and visit.  There was a wonderful, warm, friendly feeling in the fellowship hall.  As soon as we moved back to the sanctuary we fell back to our old ways of just walking to our same spots and sitting.

Smile!  A smile makes your face attractive.  It makes your face welcoming. Greet Everyone with a smile.  We have a man in our church, his name is Dan.  He is always so upbeat and has a great big smile on his face, he makes everyone feel welcome and worthwhile.

Sometimes the drive to church is not always a pleasant one.  At my house we are usually running very late and I am not always a happy camper by the time we leave for church.  At my daughter’s house it is always a rush to find the shoes, jackets and the to do bag.  By the time we arrive at church we would have reason to have a frown on our face.  Take a moment to warm up your smile by thinking of the good things in your life and thanking God for his blessings.

Don’t overlook the importance of greeting the people you meet with a smile and shake hands to those around you.  Do this before and after every service.  Learn their names.  Even if your church has official greeters, you’re not off the hook.  When church is over don’t rush out the door, stay by and visit a little and greet those who have been sitting around you.

The last thing I want to say on this is to thank the people serving.  Smile and say thanks to at least 3 people each week.  Some of these people may be paid others are volunteers but thank them for what they do.

Well, there you have it!  I would love to hear some success stories from you.  Mother Teresa said, “Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.”

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