A Life Worth Living by Nancy Buxton

Archive for August, 2010

What About ME?

Today our two-year old grand-daughter put her dolly in time out.   She has been putting herself in time out for quite a long time but the dolly is new.  Come to find out the dolly has been hitting and she deserved to be punished.  The odd thing is the child was in time out earlier for something similar.

I wonder if God ever wants to put me in time out?  I certainly deserve it from time to time.  I am stubborn, mean, and busy–I wonder which of those does God hates the most?

Are you the me you want to be?  What do you have in mind for yourself?  Do you like who you have become?  Perhaps you  can hardly stand who you have become.  Join me in examining your life, listen to your self, evaluate what you say and how you say it.  We can change? We are actually expected to change and become more like our maker.  Hummmm I wonder who the me is that I really want to be.  Who is the real me that God made?

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The Anniversary

What to say.  Married 43 years and not much to say about it.  Well, that’s not exactly true, there is plenty to say.  I can tell you 43 years has gone by quick and yet slow.  Have you ever heard that days go slow but the years go fast?  This was really true when the kids were small, sometimes those days would just drag by until daddy came home and, and, and eat supper and watch tv until bed time. LOL

That’s how it use to be, husbands didn’t help out like they do now.  I wonder why that was.  My fella would at least put the kids to bed, he almost always did that.  I gave them the bath, got the pj’s on and he would slip into the bedroom and stay with them until they would fall asleep.  Funny thing is, that seems to be the thing the kids remember.  They don’t remember all the baths, they remember dad going to bed with them and talking until they fell asleep, all three of them.

So what did we get each other?  Welllllllllllllllllllllllllll, I told Bob to skip the present there is nothing I want and the VitaMix was pretty expensive for Mother’s Day.  What did I get him? Flowers.  Yup, I did.  He told me one time when I was wishing for flowers that I have never gotten him flowers, so I fooled him and did it.  Here’s the kicker, after a few days I asked him how he liked his flowers, he said, “What flowers?”  Funny, isn’t it?  Oh well, I have enjoyed the flowers, I’m not sure he thinks of them as his.  Who knows.

So do you have the picture?  No gifts, no cards, well except for flowers.  We did go out to eat with four other people and we went to the university dairy for an ice cream cone.  You know what? It was perfect, really it’s just nice to be happy, healthy and still seeking Jesus.

This Morning

It was about 6:00 am and I just turned over in bed and I heard a voice say, “Happy Anniversary.”  LOL  If you knew my man you would know he is never awake much less aware of much at 6:00 am. 

Yup, 43 years of marriage.  You already know it isn’t always perfect.  He can “tick” me off and yet I have noticed the older we get the easier it is.  Praise the Lord.  Don’t get me wrong it has never been exactly hard but we certainly come from different backgrounds.

I remember reading, way back when we were first married and I was not sure I was really happy, something like this: The more you dwell on your unhappiness the more unhappy you become.  Make the best of your decision and decide to be happy.  Take it to the Lord in prayer.  Now that is not exactly how it read but it was good advice that’s for sure.

Here is the Thai Peanut Sauce that goes with the Lettuce Wraps from yesterday.  Not everyone will like this, but we do and Bob is not exactly adventuresome in his eating.

This would be good drizzled over stir fried vegetable or over the rice recipe I will give you next week.  Be sure you use natural peanut butter with no added sugar and NO partially hydrogenated oil.

5 TBS. peanut butter

3 Tbs. water

1 Tbs. soy sauce

3 Tbs. fresh lime juice

2 tsp. honey–maybe 3

2 cloves garlic, peeled

1.16 tsp. salt

1/16 tsp. cayenne pepper

Put it in the blender and blend on  high until smooth and creamy.  Refrigerate until using.  Warm the sauce in a microwave before serving.  Leftover sauce freezes well.  1 Tbs. 46 Calories

Are You Vain?

This is just an honest assessment of myself.  Do you ever do that?  Think about yourself and how you feel about things, how you react to stuff?  Do you wonder if your sensitive? Are you vain? 

Last weekend while visiting our kids, I hurt my 8 year old’s feelings.  We all know a grandma would never do such a thing on purpose.  The truth is I am NOT sensitive.  That may not be a true statement because I am sensitive after the fact.  His mom asked him to  tell me what I did that made him feel bad.  He didn’t really want to do that but she wants him to be able to express how he feels about things (a  good thing for a man to be able to do).  I am sensitive about hurting his feelings, I wanted to cry myself.  But, I am not sensitive when it comes to always knowing how my words make someone else feel.  I didn’t realize when he told me he would miss his mom and dad if he came home with me and I said, “Oh poo,” that I was making him feel bad. 

Isn't this lovely?

How about vanity?  Are you vain?  I don’t think I am very vain and if I am I think I will be cured.  I have a big band-aide on my nose.  Yup it really stands out.  Not only that once the biopsy report comes back I will probably have stitches on my nose, won’t that be fine and dandy.  Then, this fall it gets worse, I am going to have to put a cream on my face that will turn it bright red, this will peel away the top layer of my skin and get rid of the pre-cancer skin condition I have.  Vanity, vanity, I hope this will cure any vanity I have. 

If I were too vain don’t you think I would be successful at Weight Watchers?  I know you have been holding your breath wondering how I am doing.  WELL, I have not lost a pound.  It’s not WW fault, it’s mine.  What to do, I sure don’t want to gain back what I have lost.  It’s a problem. I just called WW and canceled my membership. 

Here’s what’s cookin’!  From the same cookbook–30-day Diabetes Miracle Cookbook–I am telling you I love this cookbook it just has yummy recipes. 

Linda B.’s Sesame Lettuce Wraps with Thai Peanut Sauce 

My Mother's Day gift is right there in the middle do you see it?

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1/2 tsp canola oil

2 1/4 tsp toasted sesame oil   

1 Tbs. Soy Sauce                                                 

 1 1/2 tsp McKay’s Chicken Broth–I did 2 Tbls. 

1/2 Cup chopped onions fine                                                 

  1 Tbs. honey 

1 clove garlic, minced                                                                 

  pinch of cayenne pepper 

2 Tbs. grated carrot                                                                     lettuce leaves 

1 pkg. drained water-packed extra firm tofu cubed into 1/4 inch cubes 

1/2 Cup Morning star Farms Crumbles 

3 green onions minced 

Heat the oils in a skillet add the chopped onion, green onions, carrot, tofu cubes, and crumbles.  Saute until the onion is tender, 3 to 4 minutes.  Stir in the remaining ingredients, except the lettuce and cook until the tofu is a little brown.  The recipe says 4-5 minutes I cooked it about 15 minutes.  Place 1/4 cup in each lettuce leaf and drizzle with peanut sauce.  This would be really good as a burrito.  It is yummy.  I will give you the peanut sauce tomorrow

Tempus Fugit

So do you  know what Tempus Fugit  means?  Don’t worry I didn’t either until I Googled it.  It means “time flies”–and it sure does.  It seems like yesterday that I was shouting for joy that summer had arrived.  Now I am shouting for joy that it’s time to start piano lessons and time for the women’s retreats.

Have you read about David lately?  You should!  Here David slept with another man’s wife and then had Uriah killed in battle to cover up the mess.  God certainly let David know he was unhappy with him.  God told David, through Nathan, that David had caused the Lord’s enemies to lose all respect for him.  For this reason the son who was born to David and Bathsheba will die.  Sure enough, shortly after the message from Nathan,  the child got sick and died. 

This is the part that comforts me. I Samuel 12:24, “Then David comforted Bathsheba his wife.  He slept with her. . .She became pregnant again and had another son, whom David named Solomon.  The Lord loved Soloman.” 

If the Lord was not the Lord I would guess this story would be different.  Praise the Lord, he is LORD and he certainly does forgive and forget.  God’s complaint against David seems to be over and he gave David a son who was the wisest man who ever lived and was even qualified to build the Lord’s temple.

It’s a wonder to me, I don’t understand but this I know; I am thankful for a merciful Father who loves enough to forgive and forget.

There is No Good Definition of Happiness

The dictionary defines happiness as; Characterized by good luck; fortunate, enjoying, showing, or marked by pleasure, being especially well-adapted, cheerful. Do you like any of these definitions?

Once I saw a newspaper advertisement That read, “If you are not completely satisfied with your life, give us a call.”  This is a perfect add because who in the world is completely satisfied with their life?

The truth is we are completely satisfied with nothing.

The reason is human nature. What ever we want–love, money, attention, pleasure, food, security–cannot be supplied to completely satisfy.  I think our human nature is the biggest obstacle to happiness. 

I have a friend who is never happy, in my eyes she has everything, a lovely home, a loving husband and plenty of money.  It isn’t enough, she still has a problem with happiness.

Could it be that our brain can determine our happiness.  When my little grand kids get cranky their mother always tells them that it’s up to them to decide to be happy.  I think she is on to something that we all need to do.  Decide to be happy.  We can decide to be satisfied with what we have.  A poor person who decides to be happy with what little they have is much happier than the wealthy person who is unhappy because they want more.

If we are not satisfied with what we have, will we allow that to make us unhappy?  For sure dissatisfaction does not have to make us unhappy.  Oh I know I’m not making sense out of this but this is what I know.  Someone my age (young) has terminal cancer–I don’t know her well enough to know if she has been satisfied with her life.  I do know as I look at my life, I don’t want to wasted any time being unhappy with life.  There are things I can be dissatisfied about but I want with all my heart to be happy from the inside-out.

I have noticed, I really am much happier and satisfied when I have spent a good amount of time in the WORD.  It just stands to reason that the Lord fills my needs, my heart, my longings with gems from His WORD.

A Giving Heart

Do you know the Bible tells us that’s it’s important to give?  I think we should give because it is our role.  As women God certainly created us to be givers.  We give a smile, a hug, a compliment, encouragement.  I mean that’s us, we are natural givers.

The New Testament tells us to give generously.  Galatians 6:7 says, “What ever a mother sows, that she will also reap.” That’s a scary thought.  As I consider the principle of sowing and reaping, I realize that what I put into my family on a daily basis will be what I get back in the years to come.  When I really think about that I could gasp for air, wish I had thought about this sooner.

Give expecting nothing in return.  Really we serve our family because God says to do it. Luke 6:35  We don’t give love to get praise, and if we do there is something really wrong.  Read Titus 2:4 it is pretty clear on just how we are to love our children.

I think we need to have fun, I think visiting grandma’s house should be the most fun a kid has.  Or what about a child’s home? It should be a ball for every family member.  We need to develop a good sense of humor, laugh easily.  When my daughter was dating I would usually wait up for her and when she would come in the door, usually with a girl friend, we would put on the water make some mac and cheese and talk it all over.  We had some really good laughs and lots of fun talking about the evening.

IDK–I certainly don’t have all the answers but let’s make life fun.  Lighten up a little and bring a sparkle to the eyes of the people we love.

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