A Life Worth Living by Nancy Buxton

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Seeing Things the Way He Sees Them

Seeing others and myself the way He sees them

Seeing opportunity

Seeing Him at work

Seeing new ways of doing things, getting more efficient

Seeing my home and family the way He sees them

Seeing His word and applying it

Seeing His ways and following them

I sometimes feel so over whelmed

Too many things to do, I feel blurry

I want to be more focused, more kingdom focused

That’s what I want.

Going Back

As we drove up the road facing the mountains in Colorado, I had the same lonely feeling I experience 40 some years ago when my parents dropped me off at a little school just below the foothills of  the Rocky Mountains. 

It’s an odd feeling, one I can’t really explain, just a sense of aloneness, is the best way I can describe it.  As Bob parked the car  I looked around to see if I could recognize at least one person, I didn’t. We walked to the front of the gym and  stopped at the registration booth,  I gave them my information and put my name tag around my neck.  The problem was, it said Nancy Buxton and that was not my name when I attended this school.  Never the less I did see some classmates and we had a good time catching up.

There were 90 some who graduated from the class of 1965 and for this 45th reunion I think only 15 came back.  I wondered where the rest were and why they didn’t show up.

Am I happy I traveled 500 miles to attend my honor class, hummmmmmmmmm it was okay.  You know we have all moved on.  We are all really different people than we were 45 years ago.  Living life has taken its toll on most of us.

What I came away with is just the fact that life is short, too short to hold a grudge or to look on the bad side of everything.  Life is too short to not have a relationship with Jesus, because in the end what have we gained if we don’t have Jesus as our friend.   I learned we were all most happy when talking about our families, our children and grandchildren.  I learned that I love home the best and couldn’t wait to get on the road towards Nebraska.

There is No Good Definition of Happiness

The dictionary defines happiness as; Characterized by good luck; fortunate, enjoying, showing, or marked by pleasure, being especially well-adapted, cheerful. Do you like any of these definitions?

Once I saw a newspaper advertisement That read, “If you are not completely satisfied with your life, give us a call.”  This is a perfect add because who in the world is completely satisfied with their life?

The truth is we are completely satisfied with nothing.

The reason is human nature. What ever we want–love, money, attention, pleasure, food, security–cannot be supplied to completely satisfy.  I think our human nature is the biggest obstacle to happiness. 

I have a friend who is never happy, in my eyes she has everything, a lovely home, a loving husband and plenty of money.  It isn’t enough, she still has a problem with happiness.

Could it be that our brain can determine our happiness.  When my little grand kids get cranky their mother always tells them that it’s up to them to decide to be happy.  I think she is on to something that we all need to do.  Decide to be happy.  We can decide to be satisfied with what we have.  A poor person who decides to be happy with what little they have is much happier than the wealthy person who is unhappy because they want more.

If we are not satisfied with what we have, will we allow that to make us unhappy?  For sure dissatisfaction does not have to make us unhappy.  Oh I know I’m not making sense out of this but this is what I know.  Someone my age (young) has terminal cancer–I don’t know her well enough to know if she has been satisfied with her life.  I do know as I look at my life, I don’t want to wasted any time being unhappy with life.  There are things I can be dissatisfied about but I want with all my heart to be happy from the inside-out.

I have noticed, I really am much happier and satisfied when I have spent a good amount of time in the WORD.  It just stands to reason that the Lord fills my needs, my heart, my longings with gems from His WORD.

Happy Birthday

I had to give my birthday wishes over the phone.  It just isn’t fair, do I sound like a child?  Sometimes I feel like a child, what does the Bible say?  Once a man and twice a child, I’m there.  April 25 is the day I became a mom, I didn’t know the joy that little boy would bring to my life, I only knew I loved him before he was born.  In my eyes he has been a perfect son!  I wonder if God feels the same about me or about you?  Have you ever thought of that?

This is an old post but for my newest readers I think it is worth the read it is about letting go of your most precious possession.

My Boy has turned into a man, oh he still has that boyish look, that smile that melts my heart but he IS a man, he even shaves (inside joke).  He has a kind heart, he is a great husband and father, fun loving and sweet.  I am his mother but I don’t think I’m bias–he is just that way.

I remember when he finished college and was headed to Seattle to work for Boeing, I couldn’t stand it.  His father and I went on a trip and left his sister home to take care of seeing him off.  I just couldn’t bear to see him turn the corner and drive away, it brings tears to my eyes now as I think about it. Little did I know. . .

That he would make us (his parents) seem like exotic travelers, which we aren’t but because of him we are.  He had the nerve to move his precious wife and children to the other side of the world.  That’s right, a 27 hour plane ride.  It never crossed my mind that he would ever live half way around the world from me. When he moved to Seattle, single (have I told you I found his sweet wife for him?) and alone, I recall telling him if I live to be 70 years old I will probably only see him a certain number of time, silly I know but that’s how I felt. 

Why am I telling you this?  I want you to think about letting go, sometimes it is difficult, especially for mom’s to let their boy soar.  Do it!  As a parent it is our job to raise our children to fly away.  Be happy for them, be excited for them and support their decision.  You see life is hard and we each need people in our corner who support us and believe in us, as a mom this is part of our job. Don’t hang on, don’t tie him to your apron string and don’t keep him tied when he gets married.  It’s  Biblical, a man shall cleave to his wife not his mother or father. (Gen. 2:24, Matt. 19:5, Mark 10:1)  I like the word cleave it sounds perfect for a man and woman to cleave.

Would I love to have him and his family living next door, I sure would, but I am happy for them.  They love what they are doing and where they live, and I want to give them the support they need from me.

So dear mom and dad, when it’s time let go, let that precious boy soar and be happy that you raised him to do it.My boy and his boy

Poem

 

  A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …

enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to…
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a youth she’s content to leave behind….
a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to
retelling it in her old age….
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…
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ne friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …….
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..

a feeling of control over her destiny…..
how to fall in love without losing herself..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship….

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW….

when to try harder… and WHEN TO WALK AWAY…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

that she can’t change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
that her childhood may not have been perfect…but it’s over…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…..
how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. .

whom she can trust,
whom she can’t,
and why she shouldn’t take it personally…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

where to go…
be it to her best friend’s kitchen table..
or a charming Inn in the woods…
when her soul needs soothing…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

What she can and can’t accomplish in a day…
a month…and a year…

 

 

This poem is by Maya Angelou she just left out the most important  part, to know Jesus.  Get in touch with Him daily and pray continually.

 
 

 

 
 

 

 

 

Watching . . .

Do you like to watch people?  I sure do!  I never mind having a few hours between connections at the airport I just watch the people.

Yesterday I was at Dillard’s, they are having a great sale, 40% off the already 50% off items.  I love shoes!  I was, guess where, in the show department.  I over heard a conversation about shoes.  An older lady, about my age–oh that hurt–picked up a pair of very high heeled shoes.  She informed her friend that she just couldn’t wear those shoes with such high heels and then she said, “But I admire women who can.”  Admire women who can, what is there to admire about what kind of shoes others can wear.  Admire because someone is a hard worker, honest, bright, thoughtful, kind, loving  but not the kind of shoes they can wear.  I just thought it was an odd choice of words.

My next observation was at a garage sale.  You already know I love to go to garage sales and I sell books on Amazon.  As I saw a box of old books I naturally looked them over.  Then I asked the lady if she had ever check Amazon to see if any of the books were of value.  She informed me she didn’t know how to do that.  I told her it was easy and explained how to do it.  She sold the whole box to me for $6.00 and as she carried the books to the car for me she said, “I hope  you find a treasure in these.”  I could just tell this lady has the right out look on life.  She didn’t mind that she may have sold a treasure she was just happy doing what she was doing.

I really want to be like the second lady, I want to wish everyone well, I don’t want to covet or be jealous of what others do or have.  Max Lucado says it something like this, “It takes a team to have a good life and be sure you applaud your teammates.”  That is not word for word but you get the point.  Let’s applaud those around us, lets admire others for the right reasons.

You may not hear from me for a few days as I will be at a leadership retreat in Colorado.  I will see you when I get back. 

Oh you want to know how the weigh in went today–up 1/2 pound ugh!! Am I discouraged?  Nope not yet but I could eat a piece of cardboard right now, I am hungry.

Learn to be Content

One day I was at Walmart and there was a mother and child waiting in line in front of me, I heard the “I want” words a million  many times.  Children always seem to want things, especially when the stores make everything look so inviting.  I took my little granddaughter into Target and she was like a bee to honey flying around the store using the “I want” words until finally I ended up buying her some underwear to keep her happy and we rushed out of the store.

My question to you is. . .Is the “I want” disease just a child’s problem?

A few years ago I went through the I want stage and I didn’t like it.  After living in the same house for almost 27 years we built a new house.  Trust me the I want’s long outlasted the money.  (I had not met Dave Ramsey yet)

If you find great joy in your bank account, your clothing, what you drive, or where you live you have a problem.  The good news is the problem can be fixed.  Remember the Psalm, The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want?

I read a story about man who walked into town carrying everything he owned in his backpack.  He didn’t have to do this, it was his choice.  You see he felt called to walk and hand out Bibles.  I know, I know sounds a little suspicious but did you hear? He felt called, called by God.

“Come you blessed of my Father and inherit the kingdom I’ve prepared for you.  For when I was hungry you gave me food, when I was thirsty you gave me drink, a stranger and you took me in.”

Now I am not saying I think we all need to get rid of our belongings and start walking.  What I am saying is we need to learn to be content and to help others.

When God looks at us He does not see our stuff, He sees our servant heart. Contentment comes when we can say, “I have learned to be satisfied with the things I have. . .I know how to live when I am poor, and I know how to live when I have plenty.”  Phil. 4:11-12

The Lord is my Shepherd I shall not want. . . . .

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