A Life Worth Living by Nancy Buxton

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How Was it When You Grew Up?

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I grew up in the 40’s/50’s with practical parents. A mother, God love her, who washed aluminum foil after she cooked in it, then reused it. She was the original recycle queen, before they had a name for it… A father who was happier getting old shoes fixed than buying new ones.  

I can see them now, Dad in trousers, tee shirt and a hat and Mom in a house dress, lawn mower in one hand, and dish-towel in the other. It was the time for fixing things. A curtain rod, the kitchen radio , screen door, the oven door, the hem in a dress Things we keep. 
   
best friend that moved away or a classmate we grew up with.

Their marriage was good, their dreams focused. Their best friends lived barely a wave away..

It was a way of life, and  sometimes it made me crazy. All that re-fixing, eating, renewing, I wanted just once to be wasteful. Waste meant affluence. Throwing things away meant you knew there’d always be more.

But then my mother died, and on that clear summer’s night, in the warmth of the hospital room, I was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn’t any more. 

Sometimes, what we care about most gets all used up and goes away….never to return.. So… while we have it…… it’s best we love it…. and care for it… and fix it when it’s ! broken……… and heal it when it’s sick. 

This is true. for marriage…….. and old cars…. and children with bad report cards….. and dogs with bad hips….. and aging parents…. . and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it. Some things we keep. Like a

There are just some things that make life important, like people we know who are special…….. and so, we keep them close! 

THIS WAS EMAILED TO ME AND IT REMINDED ME OF THE HOME I GREW UP IN.  AS A KID I THOUGHT THINGS WOULD ALWAYS STAY THE SAME.  MY DAD TELLING ME TO TURN OFF THE LIGHT AND CATCH A NICKLE, MY MOM COLLECTING RAIN WATER TO WATER HER PLANTS.  THINGS DO CHANGE AND NOT ALWAYS FOR THE GOOD AND YET IT IS INEVITABLE.

ALL I KNOW IS WE MUST LIVE IN TODAY, NOT YESTERDAY, NOT TOMORROW BUT RIGHT NOW.  WE MUST LOVE COMPLETELY AND FEEL DEEPLY FOR OUR FELLOW MAN (WOMAN). AGAIN, IT IS BIBLICAL–LOVE THE LORD AND LOVE YOUR FELLOW MAN.

Happy Birthday

I had to give my birthday wishes over the phone.  It just isn’t fair, do I sound like a child?  Sometimes I feel like a child, what does the Bible say?  Once a man and twice a child, I’m there.  April 25 is the day I became a mom, I didn’t know the joy that little boy would bring to my life, I only knew I loved him before he was born.  In my eyes he has been a perfect son!  I wonder if God feels the same about me or about you?  Have you ever thought of that?

This is an old post but for my newest readers I think it is worth the read it is about letting go of your most precious possession.

My Boy has turned into a man, oh he still has that boyish look, that smile that melts my heart but he IS a man, he even shaves (inside joke).  He has a kind heart, he is a great husband and father, fun loving and sweet.  I am his mother but I don’t think I’m bias–he is just that way.

I remember when he finished college and was headed to Seattle to work for Boeing, I couldn’t stand it.  His father and I went on a trip and left his sister home to take care of seeing him off.  I just couldn’t bear to see him turn the corner and drive away, it brings tears to my eyes now as I think about it. Little did I know. . .

That he would make us (his parents) seem like exotic travelers, which we aren’t but because of him we are.  He had the nerve to move his precious wife and children to the other side of the world.  That’s right, a 27 hour plane ride.  It never crossed my mind that he would ever live half way around the world from me. When he moved to Seattle, single (have I told you I found his sweet wife for him?) and alone, I recall telling him if I live to be 70 years old I will probably only see him a certain number of time, silly I know but that’s how I felt. 

Why am I telling you this?  I want you to think about letting go, sometimes it is difficult, especially for mom’s to let their boy soar.  Do it!  As a parent it is our job to raise our children to fly away.  Be happy for them, be excited for them and support their decision.  You see life is hard and we each need people in our corner who support us and believe in us, as a mom this is part of our job. Don’t hang on, don’t tie him to your apron string and don’t keep him tied when he gets married.  It’s  Biblical, a man shall cleave to his wife not his mother or father. (Gen. 2:24, Matt. 19:5, Mark 10:1)  I like the word cleave it sounds perfect for a man and woman to cleave.

Would I love to have him and his family living next door, I sure would, but I am happy for them.  They love what they are doing and where they live, and I want to give them the support they need from me.

So dear mom and dad, when it’s time let go, let that precious boy soar and be happy that you raised him to do it.My boy and his boy

Have You Witnessed Love?

I love rain, thunder, lightening, actually I love–love!  I think I have always been in love, even when I was only 5 years old I distinctly remember declaring my love for someone.

I have experienced love, I have watched love.  I have seen a mother look at her newborn baby with the eyes of an eagle, I saw a three year old brother look at his new baby sister and say–“she’s beautiful, mama.” I have seen a couple wanting a baby for so long and the look when they could finally say we are pregnant. I have watched two people who have discovered fresh love and realize one can’t live without the other. I have seen a little girl, only 7 years old, kiss her mama’s tummy telling her baby brother good night.  I have seen this same child running to greet her grandmothers yelling at the top of her voice, “wait ’til you see mom’s belly, it’s big,” and then watching with pride as the grandmothers nod their heads in agreement. I have seen a loving daughter sitting by her father’s bedside pleading with him to ask Jesus into his heart, he is dying and she knows it. I have seen a husband looking so pitiful as he remembers the fun loving woman he married so many years ago and now she  doesn’t recognize him.  I have heard the cry of a woman wishing her husband loved her enough to make their marriage work. I just finished reading about the love of Jesus for each of us, I have felt that love and am thankful.

So you see, whether it is the love we have for our child, our husband, our friend, our parents, our Lord, it is powerful, it is real and it is necessary.

I challenge you to love with all your heart, love your enemies, love those you are leery of loving, love as Jesus loved, love like everyone is your brother or sister.  It is Biblical.

Psalm 37:4 goes something like this–If you will make God the chief affection of your inmost heart. . .meaning delight yourself in the Lord, find pleasure and joy in him, get to know him well.  HE WILL GIVE YOU THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART.

God wants you, his daughters, to have the desires of your heart–he is a passionate God.  He has deep, moving desires for his creation and one of those is an intimacy with you.  He created you to be happiest when you are passionate about him, affectionate to him.

I love this text and I know you do too, Jeremiah 29:11  “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to five you hope and a future.”

Please let’s unwrap the gift of happiness, let’s throw away the wrapping and keep happiness and love in our hearts by being passionate and affectionate about Jesus.

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