A Life Worth Living by Nancy Buxton

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A Cord of Three Strands

I love to embroidery, I know what you’re thinking, what doesn’t she love?  Well, I don’t love. . .oh we will leave that for another time.  Ecclesiastes 4:12 says: “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”  It  sure is true in my embroidery experience and it’s true in live.

I am just going to jump right in and say I am comparing this to at least 3 things we need in our life to stay strong.  First, we each need a mentor–perhaps an older person, for sure someone who knows Jesus. 

Second, we need someone to encourage us.  Last week two of my little grands visited us, it was so much fun to encourage them and watch what encouragement does for them. I have seen it in the lives of women, when we are encouraged we seem to blossom. 

 Third we each need to invest in the life of a younger person or someone who does not know Christ like we do.  I have never felt any closer to the Lord than when I was investing in another person’s spiritual life.  I think I grew as much or more than she did.

 Sometimes a person may start out knowing an individual in one way and then after a time this person may become part of the strand of the cord. I think often we never allow ourselves to be open enough to allow another individual to help us grow in Christ or grow as an individual, We have the idea that we can do it all by ourselves.

If we allow a mentor in our life who truly loves us they will tell us like it is.  Love always wants the best for the other person.  Sometimes that means we need to speak some difficult truths rather than simply stroke each other’s egos.  Jesus challenged His disciples when they needed it.

I hope you will look for a mentor, someone to mentor and someone who will encourage you, it’s worth your time.

Where Do We Go From Here?

I’ve been asked to be a mentor.  Sounds easy to you?  It did to me too until I had to pick up the phone.  Until I thought about what being a mentor really means.  Until I visited with a friend about it and she told me I needed to really pray about it before I commit to it.  Now it sounds hard, unnerving, awkward even a little scary.

This is what I truly believe–it is really an obligation we have as women–women’s ministry–to ensure that every new member has a friend in the church. I believe we need to “plug” our new members into a position in the church as quickly as possible.  I believe we need to help them find what their gifts and passions are and put them to work.  I believe we need to sponsor each man, woman and child to the next retreat.  We have to treat our new members like babies, handle them carefully, give them the needed attention they deserve, feed them and take care of them.  We need a special Sabbath School class for them at least once a month so they can become grounded in their beliefs.

I wish I could tell you I thought all of this up on my own, but it’s not true.  I have a friend who has tried most of these things in her church and they have a 90% retention rate.  Isn’t that what we want?  Don’t we want to keep the members we baptize?  This much I do know, people are not going to stay in a church if they don’t have any friends, if they have nothing to do and if they feel like an outsider.

I would love to hear from you!  I want to know what you do in your church to mentor your new members.

So back to my story, I did pick up the phone and we had a very nice visit.  I am calling next week and we will go to lunch.  I have a feeling I just may have a new friend.  I’m excited.

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