“God’s most precious jewels are crystallized tears,” Barbara Johnson has a book by that name. If you know Barbara’s story you know she has reason to shed tears and yet she has found joy in life.
Here is a little nugget for you, “I’ve learned that my own grief is eased when I can reach out with compassion to help another hurting person whose grief is sharp and fresh.”
I remember when I thought my heart would break. If I think deeply about it I can still feel the pain in my heart and the hot tears start to sting my eyes. She had a long life, but not long enough for me. She loved life and at 91 she was still willing to live a little longer. She was a funny one and at the same time she could irritate me to no end, she was always on my side no matter what. As I rested on her bed with my arms around her I felt my mother take her last breath. I knew I had lost my best friend on this earth, the person who loved me more than she loved her self.
Nancy has watched two sons die, one of AIDS and one of cancer. She helped her mother through a divorce, cared for her mother until she died of cancer and has had breast cancer herself. This is what she says, “God gets you through it. You think, I could never go through all that sadness, but God sees you through. He gives you the strength. I just keep pulling on Philippians 4:13:’I can do all things through Christ. . .'”
The truth is it is not easy, it takes a long time and it is very exhausting to find healing.
Nancy’s heart is patched and mended, held together by God’s love and a craving for joy. “Through all your sorrow, God can help you find joy and happiness.” she said. “I love laughter. I try to laugh every single day. It’s an element that diffuses our temptation to be self-righteous. I love people. And I’ve learned that my own grief is eased when I can reach out with compassion to help another hurting person whose grief is sharp and fresh.”
So my friend if your heart is healing, help someone else who has a fresh broken heart. We all have a story to tell and the telling is the healing balm for the teller and the listener.