A Life Worth Living by Nancy Buxton

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Seeing Things the Way He Sees Them

Seeing others and myself the way He sees them

Seeing opportunity

Seeing Him at work

Seeing new ways of doing things, getting more efficient

Seeing my home and family the way He sees them

Seeing His word and applying it

Seeing His ways and following them

I sometimes feel so over whelmed

Too many things to do, I feel blurry

I want to be more focused, more kingdom focused

That’s what I want.

The Anniversary

What to say.  Married 43 years and not much to say about it.  Well, that’s not exactly true, there is plenty to say.  I can tell you 43 years has gone by quick and yet slow.  Have you ever heard that days go slow but the years go fast?  This was really true when the kids were small, sometimes those days would just drag by until daddy came home and, and, and eat supper and watch tv until bed time. LOL

That’s how it use to be, husbands didn’t help out like they do now.  I wonder why that was.  My fella would at least put the kids to bed, he almost always did that.  I gave them the bath, got the pj’s on and he would slip into the bedroom and stay with them until they would fall asleep.  Funny thing is, that seems to be the thing the kids remember.  They don’t remember all the baths, they remember dad going to bed with them and talking until they fell asleep, all three of them.

So what did we get each other?  Welllllllllllllllllllllllllll, I told Bob to skip the present there is nothing I want and the VitaMix was pretty expensive for Mother’s Day.  What did I get him? Flowers.  Yup, I did.  He told me one time when I was wishing for flowers that I have never gotten him flowers, so I fooled him and did it.  Here’s the kicker, after a few days I asked him how he liked his flowers, he said, “What flowers?”  Funny, isn’t it?  Oh well, I have enjoyed the flowers, I’m not sure he thinks of them as his.  Who knows.

So do you have the picture?  No gifts, no cards, well except for flowers.  We did go out to eat with four other people and we went to the university dairy for an ice cream cone.  You know what? It was perfect, really it’s just nice to be happy, healthy and still seeking Jesus.

There is No Good Definition of Happiness

The dictionary defines happiness as; Characterized by good luck; fortunate, enjoying, showing, or marked by pleasure, being especially well-adapted, cheerful. Do you like any of these definitions?

Once I saw a newspaper advertisement That read, “If you are not completely satisfied with your life, give us a call.”  This is a perfect add because who in the world is completely satisfied with their life?

The truth is we are completely satisfied with nothing.

The reason is human nature. What ever we want–love, money, attention, pleasure, food, security–cannot be supplied to completely satisfy.  I think our human nature is the biggest obstacle to happiness. 

I have a friend who is never happy, in my eyes she has everything, a lovely home, a loving husband and plenty of money.  It isn’t enough, she still has a problem with happiness.

Could it be that our brain can determine our happiness.  When my little grand kids get cranky their mother always tells them that it’s up to them to decide to be happy.  I think she is on to something that we all need to do.  Decide to be happy.  We can decide to be satisfied with what we have.  A poor person who decides to be happy with what little they have is much happier than the wealthy person who is unhappy because they want more.

If we are not satisfied with what we have, will we allow that to make us unhappy?  For sure dissatisfaction does not have to make us unhappy.  Oh I know I’m not making sense out of this but this is what I know.  Someone my age (young) has terminal cancer–I don’t know her well enough to know if she has been satisfied with her life.  I do know as I look at my life, I don’t want to wasted any time being unhappy with life.  There are things I can be dissatisfied about but I want with all my heart to be happy from the inside-out.

I have noticed, I really am much happier and satisfied when I have spent a good amount of time in the WORD.  It just stands to reason that the Lord fills my needs, my heart, my longings with gems from His WORD.

There is a Lesson to Be Learned

That’s what my mom would always say, “there’s a lesson here some place.”  I say my lesson is to be happy with what I have or I should say had.  I just got a new phone, I hate it.  I want my old one back!  Why didn’t I just keep what I was familiar with IDK. Why do we always want the newest, the biggest the best?

I was reading about Ruth and Naomi, what a pair they were.  A daughter in law who would not leave her ML and  ML who helped Ruth find a husband.  It seems to me Ruth was a woman who knew what she had a was not interested in bigger, better or new.

I love a good romantic story and the Bible is full of them.  Really the Bible has wonderful stories, exciting stories, romantic stories, dramatic stories, sad and scary stories.  What a book.

How can I be excited about soup this time of year?  I just do really love soup and this is an especially great dish.  Again this is from the cookbook, The 30-day Diabetes Miracle Cookbook.


Makes 8 1/2 Cups

1 1/2 Tbs. Smart Balance                                              1 Cup whole kernel corn

1 1/2 Cups Morningstar Crumbles                            2 Cups 3/4 inch cubed peeled butternut squash

3/4 chopped green bell pepper                                  2 Tb. McKay’s Beef broth

1 Cup chopped onion                                                       3/4 tsp. dried basil

2 cloves minced garlic                                                   1/16 tsp. cayenne pepper

3 cups water                                                                       1/2 tsp. salt-I omitted

1 can pinto beans, drained                                           1 can diced tomatoes

1 can kidney beans, drained                                        2 Tb. water

1 Tb. cornstarch

I added 2 envelopes of Sazon Seasoning–find this in a Mexican store but it’s not in the recipe.

Melt the margarine in a large pot over medium heat.  Add the crumbles, pepper, onion, garlic and saute until vegetables are tender, 4-5 minutes.  Add all the remaining ingredients, except the 2 Tb. water and cornstarch.  Cover and simmer until the vegetables are almost tender, about 20 minutes.  Whisk the cornstarch and water together, and stir into the stew.  Simmer for 5 minutes, stirring occasionally, and serve.

I have to admit I doubled almost all the ingredients except the corn,  kidney beans and tomatoes.  I used GW Broth 6 envelopes because I didn’t have any McKay’s Beef Style Broth.

The Book I Love

Today in church the sermon was about the Bible.  It was interesting and it inspired me to continue to read the Scripture.  At the beginning of summer I started reading my Bible through, again.  Just as the speaker said today, I always get bogged down in Numbers.  I actually skipped most of Numbers and felt sorta like I was cheating.  It was nice to know the speaker today also skipped Numbers.

The sermon reminded me that the Bible is always relevant no matter where we are in life.  The things that may speak to us today may not mean much to us next month.  It all depends on where we are in life. 

This afternoon I read part of Judges, I find it so very interesting how God’s people would abide in Him for a few years and then totally fall away.  Have you ever wondered if the Bible was being written right now how would our history look?  Would we look as crazy as the people of old?  Probably even more so.

There is great comfort in the Bible, when my heart is heavy or I feel restless I find peace in His Word.  I hope you do too.

Going Home!

Funny thing, when I leave for a trip I am always kind of excited, I love my women’s ministries job and actually never consider it a job. For one reason or another I will sometimes extend the trip for a day or two.  This time my friend wanted to do some shopping.  She loves to shop, I would rather have gone to Disney World–I never get tired of Micky Mouse.

I am always sorry when I extend a trip–I am just naturally drawn towards home. I love to be home.  I hope you feel that tug towards  home too.  I don’t know maybe it’s my bed I miss or perhaps it’s my sewing machine but to be honest it’s my fella.  I just miss him when I am away.  It’s because I know him so well and he knows me.  We just seem to fit each other pretty well.  It hasn’t always been like this in the early days of marriage  I would have extended my trip for weeks if given the chance.

You know where I am going with this–I’ve talked about it before–it’s the nudge toward home.  We are given a natural restlessness just to make us long for our heavenly home.  The more we get to know our Father the more we want to go home.  The more we long for heaven, the more we want the rest and peace we find when we depend on Him.

I do have some news for you–if you are planning a trip to Orlando and want to go to Disney World or Epcot, go to the Disney website.  Click on Give a Day–Get a day and follow the instructions.  If you volunteer in one of their projects in your community they will give you a free ticket to DW or Epcot.  Can’t beat that.  I can tell you it would have been a whole lot cheaper for me to pay full price for DW than to go shopping.

God’ Knows Best

This is a post written by our Women in Touch Speaker, Alicia. She writes so well and I thought you would enjoy the read.  I like this post because it reminds me that God is in charge and He cares about the details of our life.  I pray you realize that God wants what’s best for each of us.  Sometimes I know we feel like we know what’s best but it’s not true HE is the all knowing one and we must trust the outcome.

Home is Where God Leads

I drove four hours west today to a place I once called home. I’d been invited to speak at the church that first launched my ministry, and I welcomed a chance to return to one of my favorite communities. As I cruised along the road leading to my destination, I re-lived a memory that I’d nearly forgotten. Six years ago, I had nearly veered right off that same road as I trailed a big yellow moving truck out of town. The tears obscuring my view had blurred the yellow lines that split the highway and the wrestling match in my soul had distracted my focus. The sound of an angry horn had reminded me that my job was to stay on the road whether or not I wanted to go where the highway led.

On that particular day, I felt like the road leading out of town was the path to second best. My husband had finally completed his medical training and his first practice waited in a small rural town across the state lines. We had prayed, pleaded, and cooperated with God. Without a doubt, we were following the Lord’s lead; still, my heart argued with each mile.

I wanted to stay where I was comfortable. I loved my church, my girlfriends, and my neighborhood. I loved the parks where the children and I played, the paths where we hiked and the ice cream stores where we splurged. I loved the small town feel with all the conveniences of a big city. Quite frankly, I couldn’t imagine enjoying another place more. But as the miles stretched between my packed mini-van and my empty house on 84th street, I heard God whisper the same thing He’d said all along: Trust Me. As I drove, I chanted Jeremiah 29:11 and tried to convince my doubting heart that God’s plans for me were good.

That was six short years ago. Today, as I drove by all the places that had once held my heart; I thanked God for the three years I’d spent here.  I savored the opportunity to re-connect with treasured friends, to visit the church who first believed in my gifts as a speaker, and to take a stroll down memory lane. But as much as I tried, I couldn’t picture myself here today.

Today, when I think of home, I envision tulip-lined streets and quaint brick buildings.  I imagine the scent of fresh pastries wafting through Central Park as my children ride their scooters along uncluttered sidewalks. I picture a vast green yard with grass flattened by the footprints of five boisterous children and a farmer’s field just beyond the tree line that changes colors with the seasons. I picture a place without the conveniences I once held so dear- the shopping malls and children’s museums, the zoos and play lands. And I thank God for leading me down a road I would not have chosen myself.

The shifting of my heart has taught me a valuable lesson. Sometimes God asks us to let go of something good because He wants our hands free to receive something better.

Today’s Treasure: For I know the plans I have for you… to give you a future and a hope. –Jeremiah 29:11

The Birthday

Happy birthday to me, happy birthday to me, happy birthday dear meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, happy birthday to me.  Can you tell I love my birthday?  I know what you are wondering–what did he get me?  Wellllllllllllll a long time ago I had mentioned I would like a couple of Mary Kay items.  One was a set of camel hair brushes with the holder to keep things tidy when I travel.  The other was an organizer for my make up. 

Bob got the brush set and the Topeka kids gave me the organizer for the makeup.  No Ipod.  LOL  It’s okay.  You know what?  The best part was just being together with no drama.  I mean we were all healthy, happy and thankful.  We had 20 some for lunch everyone brought a thing or two and we had fun.

I stepped on the scale Monday morning and knew the party was over.  So back at it again, this time I am going to work on getting 15 pounds off. 15 pounds would put me pretty close to my goal.  It’s really no fun but has to be done.  This is my problem and if you can think of what works for you let me know.  I seem to be an all or nothing kind of person.  I am either really watching what I eat or I am eating everything.  I have to learn moderation.  You know like maybe only eat what I take and never go back for seconds.  Something like that.




enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to…
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…
a youth she’s content to leave behind….
a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to
retelling it in her old age….
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…
ne friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…

a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored…


a feeling of control over her destiny…..
how to fall in love without losing herself..


how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship….


when to try harder… and WHEN TO WALK AWAY…


that she can’t change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
that her childhood may not have been perfect…but it’s over…


what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…..
how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…


whom she can trust,
whom she can’t,
and why she shouldn’t take it personally…


where to go…
be it to her best friend’s kitchen table..
or a charming Inn in the woods…
when her soul needs soothing…


What she can and can’t accomplish in a day…
a month…and a year…



This poem is by Maya Angelou she just left out the most important  part, to know Jesus.  Get in touch with Him daily and pray continually.







Valentine’s Day

LOL  How was your Valentine’s Day?  Did your honey, your kids, your friend, your any one tell you happy Valentine’s Day?  I went to the grocery store and the clerk even gave me a valentine’s greeting.

We woke up this morning and nothing was said.  I left the house in a blizzard because CVS had some bargains and I needed to get there early to get the worm. LOL  When I got back home my man was cleaning the downstairs, he had made the beds and was doing the floors, he had cleaned the kitchen including emptying the dishwasher.

Are you wondering about the card?  He made it and had it in my slippers when I got home.  This is what the card said:  I love you–abcdefghijklmnopqrstvwxyz——————– do you get it? I didn’t.  Did you notice the u is missing?  Missing U–get it?  I know corny.

We also went out to eat with some friends, we went to Tico’s my favorite Mexican food.

Are you wondering what I did for him?  Well, I gave him a  card and ah ah ah that’s about it.  Some how it seems Valentine’s Day is a girl thing, I wonder if I think that because I am a girl.

Have I told you that I have told my man what I want for my birthday?  I want an Ipod, do you think I will get one?  I doubt it.

All in all it was a good day.  Every day is a good day, just to wake up is a good day.  This is the day the Lord has made and I am thankful for it.

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