A Life Worth Living by Nancy Buxton

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A Giving Heart

Do you know the Bible tells us that’s it’s important to give?  I think we should give because it is our role.  As women God certainly created us to be givers.  We give a smile, a hug, a compliment, encouragement.  I mean that’s us, we are natural givers.

The New Testament tells us to give generously.  Galatians 6:7 says, “What ever a mother sows, that she will also reap.” That’s a scary thought.  As I consider the principle of sowing and reaping, I realize that what I put into my family on a daily basis will be what I get back in the years to come.  When I really think about that I could gasp for air, wish I had thought about this sooner.

Give expecting nothing in return.  Really we serve our family because God says to do it. Luke 6:35  We don’t give love to get praise, and if we do there is something really wrong.  Read Titus 2:4 it is pretty clear on just how we are to love our children.

I think we need to have fun, I think visiting grandma’s house should be the most fun a kid has.  Or what about a child’s home? It should be a ball for every family member.  We need to develop a good sense of humor, laugh easily.  When my daughter was dating I would usually wait up for her and when she would come in the door, usually with a girl friend, we would put on the water make some mac and cheese and talk it all over.  We had some really good laughs and lots of fun talking about the evening.

IDK–I certainly don’t have all the answers but let’s make life fun.  Lighten up a little and bring a sparkle to the eyes of the people we love.

The Last Day of the Year

Crazy isn’t it how fast a year can pass?  I hate it, I don’t want to be a year older!  I don’t even want my grandkids to be a year older, I love the age they are right now.  I don’t want to get a year closer to retirement, Medicare, Social Security and . . .

Yesterday the United States Post Office called me, that’s right, ME.  I left my wallet with them. LOL  I asked if they would keep it until today and I would pick it up.

Today I stopped at the fabric store and told them I was just coming from the post office where I had picked up my wallet.  I purchased my fabric, focused on my credit card because I sure didn’t want to leave it at the store.  Got home and. . .you guessed it, they forgot to give me the credit card and I forgot to focus.  I asked them if they would keep it until tomorrow and I would pick it up.

Now I have not told my man about all of this, I am afraid he will take my car keys away thinking I might forget my car, or where I live or even worse my name.  However, when I told my friend about all of this she was relieved because she does stuff like this all the time.  We both found comfort in knowing it may be a common thing for women like us.

Have you thought about 2010?  Are you going to make any changes? I will have some suggestions for you tomorrow.

Be Sure Your Sins. . .

It’s  time for confession, and maybe a few smiles while I confess.  I know, you are wondering what my sin was.  Well maybe not a sin but for sure I tried to be deceitful.  Hummm is being deceitful a sin? 

Wednesday is my crazy busy day, I teach all day at school with a 2 hour break in the middle.  First mistake, my clock was off in my classroom so I messed up my break.  After finding myself 1 hour early for the afternoon lessons I decided to slip over to Hobby Lobby (their fabric is so cute). 

 As I am driving down 48th Street my cell phone rang and it was my little honey girl calling.  I was talking  to my girl and just eased around the corner on Van Dorn (without signaling)  and came literally eye to eye with a motorcycle cop.  He  whipped that bike around faster than greased lightning and pulled me over.  With a nervous smile I met his request of finding my drivers license, registration and insurance card.  He assured me he would be right back.  When he went back to his bike (here is the deceit) I eased the seat belt around me and buckled it tight.  He had not mentioned that I wasn’t wearing it and I assumed he didn’t notice.  When I came back he told me talking on a cell phone was impairing my driving in a safe manner and I agreed.  He gave me a warning and I was thankful I had clicked in that seatbelt. 

When I got to Hobby Lobby I had to go to the bathroom so bad I rushed into the stall and after I had done my job found I had no toilet paper.  Praise the Lord there was a lady next to me and I told her about my ticket, and now my problem of no TP–she had a very good laugh and handed me what I needed.

When I got back to my car, I read the ticket  and right there in black and white, my policeman had circled ” no seatbelt,” along with failing to signal when turning.  So there you are, it would have just been better if I had not tried to deceive my friend the cop.  He was merciful to me even when I was trying to help myself.  Does this remind you of anything?  The truth is when I try to take control,  my Heavenly Father has already been merciful and taken care of everything. Why is this lesson so hard to remember?

Dilly Bread

I use to make this all the time when I was  newlywed–

1 pkg yeast

1/4 Cup warm water

1 Cup cottage cheese

2 Tbs. Sugar

1 TB. finely minced onion

1 Tbs. butter, melted

1 tsp. dill seed

1 tsp dill weed

1 tsp salt

1 egg

1/4 tsp. soda

1 1/4–2 1/2 cups white flour

Mix and knead as regular bread.  Let rise 1 hour.  Knead and form into loaf and put into greased bread pan.  Let rise again.  Bake about 40 minutes at 350 degrees.



When a Woman’s Heart Breaks. . .

“God’s most precious jewels are crystallized tears,” Barbara Johnson has a book by that name.  If you know Barbara’s story you know she has reason to shed tears and yet she has found joy in life.

Here is a little nugget for you, “I’ve learned that my own grief is eased when I can reach out with compassion to help another hurting person whose grief is sharp and fresh.”

I remember when I thought my heart would break.  If I think deeply about it I can still feel the pain in my heart and the hot tears start to sting my eyes.  She had a long life, but not long enough for me.  She loved life and at 91 she was still willing to live a little longer.  She was a funny one and at the same time she could irritate me to no end, she was always on my side no matter what.  As I rested on her bed with my arms around her I felt my mother take her last breath.  I knew I had lost my best friend on this earth, the person who loved me more than she loved her self.

Nancy has watched two sons die, one of AIDS and one of cancer. She helped her mother through a divorce, cared for her mother until she died of cancer and has had breast cancer herself.  This is what she says, “God gets you through it.  You think, I could never go through all that sadness, but God sees you through.  He gives you the strength.  I just keep pulling on Philippians 4:13:’I can do all things through Christ. . .'”

The truth is it is not easy, it takes a long time and it is very exhausting to  find healing.

Nancy’s heart is patched and mended, held together by God’s love and a craving for joy. “Through all your sorrow, God can help you find joy and happiness.” she said.  “I love laughter.  I try to laugh every single day.  It’s an element that diffuses our temptation to be self-righteous.  I love people.  And I’ve learned that my own grief is eased when I can reach out with compassion to help another hurting person whose grief is sharp and fresh.”

So my friend if your heart is healing, help someone else who has a fresh broken heart.  We all have a story to tell and the telling is the healing balm for the teller and the listener.

A Woman Called. . . .



Well I can’t tell you her real name, she may not like it, let’s call her Lou.  Lou is one of my best friends.  She is witty, funny, crazy, absent minded, very bright, struggles with her weight, loves Jesus, silly, kind, not always dependable (she wants to be), as you can see the list could go on and on.

Lou lives far away from me now, and we don’t talk often.  Our talking goes in spurts depending on what’s  happening in our lives.  The interesting thing is, we seem to be able to start right in where we left off.  Even when we haven’t  seen each other for 2-3 years we have no trouble talking, there’s no awkward moments between us.

One time Lou was visiting me and we were planting tulips, her hair kept getting in her eyes and suddenly she whipped out the duct tape and slapped some on the top of her head to keep that hair in place.  I was rolling on the ground with laughter. What a sight, one grown woman with duct tape around her face and the other rolling on the ground laughing so loud the neighbors were looking. We had just moved in to our new house, the neighbors still look at me with a questioning look.

Lou can make me laugh like know one else, you know the kind of laugh I am talking about, she actually snorts when she laughs–a very becoming trait.  When we  would get one of our laughing fits our kids would say, “there they go again,” and it was true we just couldn’t stop.

Here’s the scoop:  UCLA did a study on friendship among women, I find this study very interesting.

Friendships between women are special, they shape who we are and who we are yet to be.  They soothe our inner world, fill the emotional gaps in our marriage, and help us remember who we really are.  Actually they do even more.

Scientists think that hanging out with our friends can counteract the big stress most of us experience from time to time.  The UCLA study suggests that women respond to stress with brain chemicals that cause us to make and maintain friendships with other women. The chemical is called oxytocin and it is released as part of the stress responses in a woman, it buffers the “fight or flight” response and encourages women to tend children and gather with other women instead of fighting or giving up.  When a woman engages in tending or befriending more exytocin is released which helps with the stress. This calming does not occur in men, here’s why, when men are stressed they produce testosterone in high levels and testosterone reduces the effects of oxytocin. Estrogen seems to enhance oxytocin.

This little theory may explain why women outlive men.  Many studies have shown how important friendships are, it reduces the risk of disease by lowering blood pressure, heart rate and cholesterol.  One study found that people who had no friends increased their risk of death over a 6 month period and those who had the most friends over a 9 year period cut their risk of death by more than 60%. I don’t know how they figure this stuff out but I like the percentage

The Nurses’ Health Study from Harvard Medical School found that the more friends a woman has the less likely they are to develop physical problems as they age and the happier they are.  GET THIS. . .not having friends can be as bad for your health as smoking or carrying extra weight!

Sooooooooooooooooo my friends, make friends, keep friends and treasure your friends, they are adding years to your life, and they help make you healthier and happier.

As for my friend Lou, I called her early this morning to say that she left an odd message on face book, it just said “hello” and it was posted at 6:34 a.m.  After she got out of her sleeping fog, she informed me it was a virus and she would call me right back.  That was three hours ago and no call. . .that’s the way she is and I love her.

Another Party!

Monday is another party at the College View Church, what fun we will have.  I will put some pictures up the next time I blog but in the mean time I want to let you know Women’s Ministries is alive and well at the College View Seventh Day Adventist Church.

Women in Touch will meet  on Monday, May 4 and won’t start again until October.  We are ready for a break but we do miss the 350 plus ladies who come to enjoy Spiritual food, laughter, a meal and beautiful decorations.  This time our theme is weddings, we will have a devotional, a parade of wedding gowns and a lovely meal.

We are having Chicken Croissant Sandwiches (vegetarian), Fruit Salad, Green Salad and Wedding Cake for dessert. We will get our groceries today and a cooking team will spend most of the day on Monday cooking and praying for this day of outreach and ministry.

If you don’t have Women’s Ministries in your church I would love to help you get one started.  Please leave a comment on this blog and I will contact you.  Women’s Ministries is vital for a growing church!

L. O. L.

LOL.  . .Do you know what that means?  It stands for Laugh Out Loud, yup that’s what it stands for, have you had your laugh today?  Do you know it is actually healthy to laugh and the heartier the laugh the better it is for you.  “They” say it builds endorphins.


Maybe you are wondering what I am laughing at; here it is plain and simple. I am laughing at my bargains I got at Walgreen’s.  You know I have already told you how much I love getting bargains, yesterday I brought home 6 tubes of toothpaste and some Axe Shampoo for men and the total was $7.32.  Now here’s the kicker, I paid nothing out of pocket, in couponers language that would be said nothing OOP.   Here is how I did it. . .I had 6 coupons for .75 off of Colgate Toothpaste and in Walgreen’s Easy Saver Book there is a $2.50 coupon on page 23, combining the Easy Saver coupon and the manufactures coupon gave me $3.25 off of the $3.49 purchase price so my toothpaste cost .24 each plus tax.  My Axe Shampoo is a rebate item this month and when I send in my rebate form I will get the price of $5.99 back so the shampoo will be free except the tax.  Now remember I told you I didn’t pay a thing OOP, that’s because I had rebate money on my gift card from last month.


Okay, Okay I know it sounds complicated and believe me I have paid a lot of tuition learning about coupons by the mistakes I have made but I am able to supply my family, shelters and other organizations with the good deals I get.


I know we are responsible for watching over the resources God has given us and this means our time, money and everything.  It is not always easy to be watchful but I have found it is fun and enables me to give back.

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