A Life Worth Living by Nancy Buxton

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I’m Puzzled

I’m puzzled about many things, oh to be able to sort out life and have the sorting be correct would be wonderful.  I know I’m not making sense.

One of my level-headed friends is in the hospital, he has always been IN CONTROL.  Now as I sit and watch and listen I realize he is fighting to still be the boss but. . . .If he had taken better care of his body would he be in better shape. Probably!  If I take better care of mine will it prepare me for the dismal days of old age?  Maybe!

Then what about this. . .All parents damage their children.  It cannot be helped.  Youth, like pristine glass, absorbs the prints of its handlers.  Some parents smudge, others crack, a few shatter childhoods completely into jagged little pieces, beyond repair.  Yikes!!  Good thing I didn’t know this before we had children.

And this.  Parents rarely let go of their children, so children let go of them.  They move on.  They move away.  The moments that used to define them–a mother’s approval, a father’s nod–are covered by moments of their own accomplishments.  It is not until much later, as the skin sags and the heart weakens, that children understand; their stories, and all their accomplishments, sit atop the stories of the mothers and fathers, stones upon stones, beneath the waters of their lives.

For sure I am in the skin sagging and the heart weakening stage and I do understand some of the things that use to aggravate me about my mother.

This is the weekend ALL the kids will be here–I will get some pictures for you!! What fun we will have.  This is one of the recipes I will be making.


2  Mr. Dell’s frozen hash browns

2 cans evaporated milk

1 stick butter –I will use less

4 T Mckays Chicken Seasoning–I will use a little more

Put in the largest oblong dish, bigger than a 9×13–bake 350 for 45 minutes

Where Do We Go From Here?

I’ve been asked to be a mentor.  Sounds easy to you?  It did to me too until I had to pick up the phone.  Until I thought about what being a mentor really means.  Until I visited with a friend about it and she told me I needed to really pray about it before I commit to it.  Now it sounds hard, unnerving, awkward even a little scary.

This is what I truly believe–it is really an obligation we have as women–women’s ministry–to ensure that every new member has a friend in the church. I believe we need to “plug” our new members into a position in the church as quickly as possible.  I believe we need to help them find what their gifts and passions are and put them to work.  I believe we need to sponsor each man, woman and child to the next retreat.  We have to treat our new members like babies, handle them carefully, give them the needed attention they deserve, feed them and take care of them.  We need a special Sabbath School class for them at least once a month so they can become grounded in their beliefs.

I wish I could tell you I thought all of this up on my own, but it’s not true.  I have a friend who has tried most of these things in her church and they have a 90% retention rate.  Isn’t that what we want?  Don’t we want to keep the members we baptize?  This much I do know, people are not going to stay in a church if they don’t have any friends, if they have nothing to do and if they feel like an outsider.

I would love to hear from you!  I want to know what you do in your church to mentor your new members.

So back to my story, I did pick up the phone and we had a very nice visit.  I am calling next week and we will go to lunch.  I have a feeling I just may have a new friend.  I’m excited.

Humility, the Ordinance of

Yesterday was Communion Sabbath, I love Communion, it gives me a sense of renewal, starting over, washed clean if you want to think of it like that.

Bob was eager to wash my feet, and I was BUSY, I had a job to do and when I have a job to do I “get ‘er done.”  After all I am dependable and I can’t let anything get in my way of doing my proper job.  I was taking someone’s place at the table serving water to others taking part in the ordinance of humility. 

Here sat my fella, right beside me waiting, waiting, waiting, but remember I’m BUSY. Finally he looked up at me and said, “Do you think you can do it now?”  Well, the people had slowed to a trickle so I asked the lady beside me if I could be excused.  We washed each others feet, he noted that my toenails need to be painted and smiled. https://nancyoutlook.wordpress.com/2009/05/12/how-did-mothers-day-go-for-you/ We prayed with each other and we quickly went back into the sanctuary.  Then I noticed, he was the last deacon to be seated on the front row to help serve the wine and bread.  Ugh!  Why had I not put him first and just wash our feet first and then do my DUTY?  Another lesson learned, but those lessons rarely stick.

I have been washed and forgiven by my Lord for my sins and shortcomings, He is always ready and willing to forgive.  But, I wonder when will I ever learn, when will my selfish side be put away for a new me? A kinder, less selfish, more understanding, kind of person. IDK–I am praying about it.

Town Hall for Hope

 Town Hall for Hope is your opportunity to sit down with people in your community for a nationwide town hall meeting led by Dave Ramsey.  Mark it on your calendar, April 23, 7:00 p.m. CDT.

When Dave decided to do this meeting he said he would be happy if 500 sites would be willing to host this pod-cast, well guess what, thousands of venues across the country will host this event.

I went to daveramsey.com and searched for a host site near my home and to my surprise my church, The College View Church is one of many sites in my city to host this event.

In the opening half hour, Dave will offer straight talk about the economy, recession, foreclosures and more.  He will explain where we have come from, where we are now, and what we should be doing with our money during this time.  Then, Dave will spend an hour answering your questions.

Is it Biblical to think about finances and to plan for the future?  Of course it is, we are expected to be wise and at the same time generous with our resources.  I can honestly say I have never missed any money I have given away.

Why Are We in This Mess?

I read this account of what our financial problem is. It gave me food for thought.

David Beim, a former banker who is now a professor at the Columbia Business School, has something to say for people who want to pin this whole thing on the banks.

He has a chart illustrating how much debt American citizens owe, how much we all owe — with our mortgages and credit cards — compared with the economy as a whole. For most of American history, that consumer debt level represented less than 50 percent of the total U.S. economy, as measured by gross domestic product.

And then …

“From 2000 to 2008, it’s almost a hockey stick. It just goes dramatically upward,” Beim says. “It hits 100 percent of GDP. That is to say, currently, consumers owe $13 trillion when GDP is $13 trillion. That is a ton.”

This has happened before. The chart shows two peaks when consumer debt levels equaled the GDP: One occurred in 2007, the other in 1929.

And that scares Beim.

“That chart is the most striking piece of evidence that I have that what is happening to us is something that goes way beyond toxic assets in banks. It’s something that has little to do with the mechanics of mortgage securitization, or ethics on Wall Street, or anything else,” Beim says. “It says: The problem is us. The problem is not the banks, greedy though they may be, overpaid though they may be. The problem is us.”

What do you think? Do you agree?

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