Meaningful and appropriate touch played an important part in the blessing given in Bible times. If you read in Gen. 27:26 the story is unfolding about Isaac and his sons. “Then his father Isaac said to him, ‘please come close and kiss me, my son’.” Now remember Isaac was not speaking to a small child he was speaking to his adult son Jacob. All through the Bible there are examples of touch and the placing of hands on someone as the part of a blessing.
Touch is very meaningful, it actually blesses us physically. Every day, researchers are discovering information about the importance of touch.
A Study was done at Purdue University—the librarians were asked to alternately touch and not touch the hands of students as they handed back their library cards. The experimenters interviewed the students and they found those who had been touched reported far greater positive feelings about both the library and the librarian than those who were not touched.
Okay stay with me here—-so if touch was that effective on students in a library what about the people in our homes? Touching children on the shoulder, holding hands with your spouse, stopping to ruffle someone’s hair (maybe not your wife’s or your boss) are small ways that you can change how others feel about you.
I believe parents must know that not giving meaningful touch to their children starves them of acceptance.
My precious little 6 year old grandson loves to wrestle with me. Can you picture it in your minds eye, a sixty year old grandma wrestling with a 6 year old boy? We have fun and he’s just about all I can handle. I want to touch him, I want him to feel my love for him and I dread the day I have to tell him he’s too big or I am too old for a little wrestling match.
Let’s give our children or spouses the blessing of meaningful, appropriate touch.