A Life Worth Living by Nancy Buxton

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Leadership Weekend

Carla Baker and Darlene Fairchild

It was a great weekend and if you messed it I’m sorry.  Next time you have an opportunity to attend a Leadership Weekend I hope you will consider it. 

This weekend was at Broken Arrow Ranch in Kansas.  Sue Carlson, Women’s Ministries Director for the Kansas-Nebraska Conference planned a powerful weekend.  We did lots of sharing and much learning.  We prayed together, laughed together and  we each went home changed. 

We learned about the history of women’s ministries, how to asses what needs to be done in our church.  We were taught about effective public speaking, evangelism and how to do women’s ministries.  We learned. . .well we learned way more than I can tell you.

Sue Carlson

The Lord certainly lead Sue in planning a wonderful weekend.

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How Was it When You Grew Up?

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I grew up in the 40’s/50’s with practical parents. A mother, God love her, who washed aluminum foil after she cooked in it, then reused it. She was the original recycle queen, before they had a name for it… A father who was happier getting old shoes fixed than buying new ones.  

I can see them now, Dad in trousers, tee shirt and a hat and Mom in a house dress, lawn mower in one hand, and dish-towel in the other. It was the time for fixing things. A curtain rod, the kitchen radio , screen door, the oven door, the hem in a dress Things we keep. 
   
best friend that moved away or a classmate we grew up with.

Their marriage was good, their dreams focused. Their best friends lived barely a wave away..

It was a way of life, and  sometimes it made me crazy. All that re-fixing, eating, renewing, I wanted just once to be wasteful. Waste meant affluence. Throwing things away meant you knew there’d always be more.

But then my mother died, and on that clear summer’s night, in the warmth of the hospital room, I was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn’t any more. 

Sometimes, what we care about most gets all used up and goes away….never to return.. So… while we have it…… it’s best we love it…. and care for it… and fix it when it’s ! broken……… and heal it when it’s sick. 

This is true. for marriage…….. and old cars…. and children with bad report cards….. and dogs with bad hips….. and aging parents…. . and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it. Some things we keep. Like a

There are just some things that make life important, like people we know who are special…….. and so, we keep them close! 

THIS WAS EMAILED TO ME AND IT REMINDED ME OF THE HOME I GREW UP IN.  AS A KID I THOUGHT THINGS WOULD ALWAYS STAY THE SAME.  MY DAD TELLING ME TO TURN OFF THE LIGHT AND CATCH A NICKLE, MY MOM COLLECTING RAIN WATER TO WATER HER PLANTS.  THINGS DO CHANGE AND NOT ALWAYS FOR THE GOOD AND YET IT IS INEVITABLE.

ALL I KNOW IS WE MUST LIVE IN TODAY, NOT YESTERDAY, NOT TOMORROW BUT RIGHT NOW.  WE MUST LOVE COMPLETELY AND FEEL DEEPLY FOR OUR FELLOW MAN (WOMAN). AGAIN, IT IS BIBLICAL–LOVE THE LORD AND LOVE YOUR FELLOW MAN.

Where Do We Go From Here?

I’ve been asked to be a mentor.  Sounds easy to you?  It did to me too until I had to pick up the phone.  Until I thought about what being a mentor really means.  Until I visited with a friend about it and she told me I needed to really pray about it before I commit to it.  Now it sounds hard, unnerving, awkward even a little scary.

This is what I truly believe–it is really an obligation we have as women–women’s ministry–to ensure that every new member has a friend in the church. I believe we need to “plug” our new members into a position in the church as quickly as possible.  I believe we need to help them find what their gifts and passions are and put them to work.  I believe we need to sponsor each man, woman and child to the next retreat.  We have to treat our new members like babies, handle them carefully, give them the needed attention they deserve, feed them and take care of them.  We need a special Sabbath School class for them at least once a month so they can become grounded in their beliefs.

I wish I could tell you I thought all of this up on my own, but it’s not true.  I have a friend who has tried most of these things in her church and they have a 90% retention rate.  Isn’t that what we want?  Don’t we want to keep the members we baptize?  This much I do know, people are not going to stay in a church if they don’t have any friends, if they have nothing to do and if they feel like an outsider.

I would love to hear from you!  I want to know what you do in your church to mentor your new members.

So back to my story, I did pick up the phone and we had a very nice visit.  I am calling next week and we will go to lunch.  I have a feeling I just may have a new friend.  I’m excited.

Poem

 

  A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …

enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to…
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a youth she’s content to leave behind….
a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to
retelling it in her old age….
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…
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ne friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …….
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..

a feeling of control over her destiny…..
how to fall in love without losing herself..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship….

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW….

when to try harder… and WHEN TO WALK AWAY…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

that she can’t change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
that her childhood may not have been perfect…but it’s over…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…..
how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. .

whom she can trust,
whom she can’t,
and why she shouldn’t take it personally…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

where to go…
be it to her best friend’s kitchen table..
or a charming Inn in the woods…
when her soul needs soothing…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

What she can and can’t accomplish in a day…
a month…and a year…

 

 

This poem is by Maya Angelou she just left out the most important  part, to know Jesus.  Get in touch with Him daily and pray continually.

 
 

 

 
 

 

 

 

Another Party!

  

We sold the centerpieces!

 

I so meant to post this earlier but it seems I have had more pressing things to say.  You know like the story of Bud, or the New Year ideas, or a hundred other things I haven’t even gotten around to telling you. 

DeeAnn Bragaw's title was "The Silver Sled"

 

In December, Women in Touch was just a lovely event.  We never know about the weather but we knew that day, it was as snowy and cold as it could be and yet the ladies came.  Over 250 ladies came to the church just because we were throwing our monthly party. 

This is the one time a month you will find many community ladies coming to the church to join in fellowship with ladies from my church.  We greet, laugh, chat, eat and listen, we love each other and we have become kindred spirits. 

The theme was Christmas of course!

 

I hope you have something going on at your church for women.  You know I have said it before and I’ll  say it again, women need the friendship of other women.  

 If you need help figuring out what to do just contact me, nancybee47@yahoo.com I will be happy to help you get start.  You just need a little planning, a great devotion,  a few lovely decorations, some yummy food and a speaker or event that will make the ladies want to come back again.    Well, that’s not all you need, you need to pray about it too.  That is the biggest thing, ask the Lord to help you. 

We never don’t use this party as a time to preach or teach doctrine unless someone asks.  But, it is a party with a purpose.  We want to draw others to Jesus. 

Each table decoration was different

 

We have another Women in Touch February 1, it’s  a spa theme, this will be the first time we have done anything like this before.  We have a wonderful Spiritual devotional planned.  We have made over 350 neck warmers, that will be the favors. We have several women coming to talk about skin care, relaxation and spa treatments.  Sounds silly don’t you think?  But, in the middle of February I think it will be fun to have a little silliness. 

If you have forgotten what Women in Touch is go here for another look, https://nancyoutlook.wordpress.com/2009/10/06/the-parties-have-started/  

For the rest of this year we meet the first Monday night of February, March, April and May at 6:30 pm.  y’all Come, Ya Hear?

End It Now

 

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Today, 1 out of every 3 women around the world has faced some form of violence, including sex trafficking, domestic abuse, sexual assault, honor killings, female genital mutilation, child marriage, emotional and verbal abuse, and other forms of violence. These practices are unacceptable and must end now.

 enditnow is a global campaign to raise awareness and advocate for the end of violence against women and girls around the world.

This campaign, which extends to more than 200 countries and territories, is a partnership between the Adventist Development and Relief Agency (ADRA) and the Department of Women’s Ministries of the Seventh-day Adventist Church.

I am asking you to go to the site below and sign the petition, even if you are not a member of this church I know you are interested in stopping violence against women.  We are planning to get 1 million signatures on this petition. http://www.enditnow.org/

A Day Late. . .

Yesterday was another busy day.  Am I the only one who has busy days?  Silly question I know.  Have you ever noticed we all seem to be busy and really we all seem to think we are busier than anyone else?

Well, I have news for you!  I am busy!  Busy doing what is the question?  Am I about my father’s business or am I doing my narrow minded agenda?  Oh sure, I have been a nightly hostess at the evangelistic meetings and that does take time.  I have attended a couple of meetings at church and that for sure takes time.  Here’s the kicker, my Bible is still on the table where I left it several days ago unopened.  We haven’t even been reading our Three Cups of Tea book and we only have 2 chapters to go. (Have I told you I read aloud to my man when we go to bed?)

Stop this train, I want off!  Or, do I?  I love what I do. I love talking to my kids on the phone!  I love sewing!  I love spending time with my man!  I love Women’s Ministries!  I love my blog!  I love teaching piano!  I love finding bargains!  I love my life!  This week something is missing AGAIN, I can put my finger on it.  I have missed out on spending time with HIM again.  Again I say!  Again, again, again.

The good news, every day is a new day!  Every day I am washed clean because I ask for forgiveness.  Today I start over with a clean slate to begin my walk with him anew, AGAIN.

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